Getting to the bottom of why
you cheated without judgment.
Navigating the road to redemption starts with my workbook, Why Did I Cheat? Navigating the 3 Phases To Repair The Damage: A WORKBOOK.
Crafted for individuals ready to face the consequences of their actions, this workbook provides clarity and direction on how to effectively lead your partner through the healing process.
Together, we will explore your motivations and create a solid foundation for repairing and revitalizing your relationship. A stronger future awaits you; let’s begin this journey together.
Why Did I Cheat?
Navigating the 3 Phases To Repair The Damage:
A WORKBOOK
T.L.Kern, MA LPCC
So, why did I cheat?
What happens in the early days after an affair is revealed will make or break the repair.
Pitfalls like withholding the whole truth, continuing to lie, defensiveness, and ongoing contact with the affair partner are common and kill trust permanently.
Lead the repair with integrity, empathy, and bravery and heal yourself too.
No repair process is easy; this workbook puts structure around what seems like an impossible situation and will help you come out the other side a better person.
What This Workbook Will Do for You
✅ Help you face why you cheated
Go beyond excuses or shame to uncover what led you to cross the line—so you can stop repeating the same patterns.
✅ Guide you to take control of the repair
Instead of waiting for your partner to “move on,” learn how to lead the healing process and prove you’re serious about change.
✅ Show you how to rebuild trust through action
Your partner doesn’t need more empty words—they need consistent, transparent behavior that matches what you say.
✅ Teach you to respond with empathy instead of defensiveness
When the questions and anger come (and they will), you’ll know how to stay present and listen instead of shutting down.
✅ Lay the foundation for a new relationship
Because “going back to the way things were” isn’t enough—you’ll learn to build a healthier, stronger bond than before.
B.R.
September 20, 2024
"Terri is fantastic, amazing, incredible, awesome!!!! I miss her!!! She’s so good at what she does that I got better and don’t need therapy (for now—knock on wood!). I truly feel she was born to do this work. She is so genuinely caring and encouraging! I can’t say enough good things about her. She was above and beyond for me. I would highly recommend her to anyone who is struggling and needs a kind ear, a professional mind, and a big heart! ❤ A++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++"
One of the most important things in affair recovery is putting structure around the repair. For the cheater, that means stepping up and leading the process if you want to stay with the person you cheated on.
That's where most cheaters who want to repair go wrong.
Before you decide to go it alone read this case study and think again.
This book is easy - and maybe not all the parts fit your situation. I guarantee it will help you successfully make a serious attempt in figuring out why you stepped out, how to own it without feeling beaten down, figuring out how YOU feel and what you need, and moving forward in a meaningful way, with you coming out the other side a better version of yourself.
