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Frequently Asked Questions

My role in individual couples therapy is to help you focus on what you can control—your growth, your choices, and the way you show up in your relationship. 


This isn’t about trying to “fix” your partner or waiting for them to change. Instead, it’s a self-discovery process where you explore your needs, values, and patterns so you can bring the best version of yourself into your marriage. 


Even if your partner resists counseling or responds poorly, you’ll leave with practical tools to communicate better, set healthy boundaries, and create meaningful change from your side of the relationship.

Q: How can I improve communication with my spouse?


A: Improving communication starts with learning to listen with empathy, express yourself clearly, and avoid blame or defensiveness. Online couples counseling gives you tools to break old patterns and practice new skills so conversations bring you closer instead of pushing you apart.

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Q: What are common communication problems in marriage?


A: Many couples struggle with repeated arguments, feeling unheard, emotional disconnection, or difficulty discussing sensitive topics without fighting. Communication counseling helps uncover the root of these issues and teaches practical strategies to resolve them.

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Q: Why do I feel misunderstood in my relationship?


A: Feeling misunderstood often happens when partners fall into negative cycles of defensiveness, assumptions, or poor listening. Counseling helps you both slow down, hear each other more fully, and rebuild emotional connection so you feel seen and valued.

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Q: What skills do couples learn in communication counseling?

A: Couples learn skills like active listening, conflict resolution, expressing needs without blame, and validating each other’s emotions. These tools create stronger intimacy, trust, and problem-solving in your relationship.

Q: Is online counseling effective for communication issues?


A: Yes. Research shows online counseling is as effective as in-person therapy. It also offers convenience and privacy, giving couples the chance to work on their relationship without the stress of commuting or rigid scheduling.

Advice & Support When Your Partner Refuses Counseling

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When Your Spouse Won’t Go to Counseling

It can feel frustrating and lonely when you know your marriage needs help, but your partner won’t come to counseling. You may wonder: “Can I really improve things on my own?” The answer is yes. Even if your spouse isn’t ready, you can take steps to strengthen your relationship, shift patterns, and create a healthier dynamic.

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Judgment-Free Zone
We don’t play the blame game in my sessions. Speak openly without worrying about how you’ll be perceived.
 
Communication Skills
Learn practical skills for improving communication so there’s no need to seek comfort outside the relationship.
 
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No traffic, no waiting rooms. Enjoy 100% fully virtual sessions from the comfort of your home.

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What You Can Do on Your Own

Marriage is a partnership, but it only takes one person to begin change. Individual counseling for relationship concerns helps you:

  • Learn communication skills that make conversations calmer and more productive

  • Change how you respond to conflict, reducing arguments and tension

  • Set boundaries that protect your emotional well-being

  • Explore your own needs, values, and expectations in marriage

  • Model healthier patterns that often inspire your partner to engage differently

Why Marriage Advice Isn’t Just for Couples Together

Many people think counseling only works if both partners attend. But the truth is, one partner can have a powerful influence on the direction of the marriage. 


By working on your mindset, behaviors, and skills, you change the “dance steps” of your relationship—often leading your partner to respond in healthier ways.

Online Counseling for Individuals in Relationships

With online counseling, you don’t have to wait for your spouse to agree. Sessions are private, convenient, and focused on helping you make progress now. You’ll learn tools that improve your marriage even if your partner is resistant.

  • Confidential: Your partner doesn’t have to attend for you to grow

  • Practical Tools: Communication strategies you can apply right away

  • Flexible Sessions: 30, 45, or 60 minutes to fit your schedule

  • Accessible: Use insurance through Headway or private pay options

S.W.

June 13, 2025

"Terri doesn't blame or judge. Just actionable plans and steady progress."

P.G.

July 22, 2025

"I acknowledge that the inner critic's voice is now more recognizable and less impactful than it was last year."

J.S.

January 15, 2025

"She has been absolutely fantastic. Listens to my needs and provided helpful feedback. Definitely would come back to her."

A.K.

June 3, 2024

"When I first started working with Terri, I was in crisis. Her ability to fully understand me and hold space for me was unprecedented in my therapy journey. She was extraordinary and I'll return to her."

M.T.

September 5, 2024

"Terri is absolutely amazing and has created the best experience I have ever had with therapy or really any mental health help. She is very honest, insightful, and I can’t help but smile and feel safe with her during her appointments."

B.R.

September 20, 2024

"Terri is fantastic, amazing, incredible, awesome!!!! I miss her!!! She’s so good at what she does that I got better and don’t need therapy (for now—knock on wood!). I truly feel she was born to do this work. She is so genuinely caring and encouraging! I can’t say enough good things about her. She was above and beyond for me. I would highly recommend her to anyone who is struggling and needs a kind ear, a professional mind, and a big heart! ❤ A++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++++"

L.D.

January 6, 2025

"Understands me and what I am feeling."

C.H.

March 7, 2025

"She’s the best!"

T.N.

February 21, 2025

"I love her"

E.W.

January 21, 2025

"Love her"

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